Have you ever said something that made someone angry and you just couldn’t figure out what happened? Calm down! You are not the only one.
So why does this happen?
It is simply because people don’t understand everything you have to say. When you try to say something your listener either does not understand or does not want to hear, you can expect trouble. Do not be surprised if your listener gets angry, bursts into tears, accuses you of harassing him/her, claims that you have hurt his/her feelings/sentiments, or even tries to murder you.
So how do you avoid strife?
I have devised an ultra simple way:
Step 1: Make a list of all the people you talk to.
Step 2: Make a list of all the topics you talk about.
Step 3: Match the topics to the people. Be very careful when you do this. For example, you may enjoy criticizing religion with Person A. But you cannot even mention the word “religion” without things ending up in a fight with Person B. So don’t match “religion” with Person B. You will be happier discussing babies or some other harmless topic with Person B.
Step 4: Stick to those assigned topics and you should be fine.
And what do you do when a new person steps into your life?
Naturally, this new person must’ve stepped into your life through some known person/people who will give you valuable information. Keen observation will also tell you a lot about the new person. Once you know the new person well, you can easily assign “safe topics” to him/her.
Does this mean you cannot discuss everything with one person?
Oh well, everything is possible on earth. Didn’t someone say that “impossible is a word found in the dictionary of fools”? If you have met someone who can handle anything and everything you are capable of talking about, you are lucky.
If you haven’t, start a blog.